Wednesday, January 10, 2007

Hey, I Have Something Important To Say!


I forgot what it was. 8-}

Have you ever been in a meeting where you felt not a single word you said mattered? No one is listening to you? You offer up a solution to a problem and the discussion about how to solve the problem just goes on indefinitely? You know your solution will work, but nobody can hear you? You have experience with what they are talking about, but nobody cares?

These are the days you go to bed at night and wonder why God placed you in that place at that time. What in the world were you supposed to be doing?? I can only assume that I was supposed to be learning something by listening to them, but honestly? All I learned was that it's important to be a good listener, i.e. what it feels like not to be listened to (and I know that ends with a preposition, but I'm not sure what to do about it). And honestly? Okay, honestly, maybe I'm not always a good listener. But I try.

In today's meeting (not for work but for a charitable board I sit on...I'm actually the Treasurer and the issues we were discussing involved money, the taking in of money, the counting of money, the internal control related to money, something about which I'm supposed to be knowledgeable and for which I'm supposed to be responsible), here are some things I thought about doing (but would never actually do in real life) to get their attention:

1) Get up and walk out, slamming the door and leaving a trail of ditritus in my wake (you know, like stuff that might fall out of my purse, girl things and such)

2) Throw my pencil across the room and scream "Hey, I have something important to say!" (I actually had a client throw a pencil across the room once...nobody got hurt, but that was not a very pleasant moment)

3) Push myself away from the table, close my notebook and refuse to talk even if a question was posed directly to me, maybe pull the New Testament out of my purse (amongst a group who does not read the NT) and start reading, completely disengaging myself mentally but not physically

4) Pull out my cell phone and start talking loudly to a friend, pretending to place bets on horse races, making shsshing noises and motioning with my finger for them to wait for me, to indicate this is a very important call I need to make but I'll be just a minute.

5) Pull out my laptop and start blogging, laughing at the incredibly witty things you all have to say that are way more fun than what I had to listen to in there.

There, I'm glad I got that off my chest. I'm sorry you had to see all that. 8-}

Meetings. *sigh*

Labels: ,


At 9:52 PM, January 10, 2007, Blogger Eric said...

Oh, did you say something? I was distracted. ;-)

Seriously, though, any group that fails to recognize what you bring to the table probably doesn't deserve your presence on their board. I'm sure there are plenty of other worthy organizations that would be happy to make good use of your talents.

At 10:10 PM, January 10, 2007, Blogger Gwynne said...

That's a very nice thing to say, Eric (the second part). Thank you. :-)

At 11:59 PM, January 10, 2007, Blogger Rach said...

Glad I am not the only one who has that problem! I agree with Eric though - If they are stupid enough not to listen to you...Move to NZ! :)

At 12:37 AM, January 11, 2007, Anonymous Anonymous said...

I was just in a board meeting yesterday that felt much like that. I'm the Executive Director... you would think my input might be solicited for something! But no. I just sat there wondering when some of the slackers would finally tender their resignation. Sheesh. I feel you.

At 5:38 AM, January 11, 2007, Anonymous Brian said...

I like #4. Especially the part about the shsshing noises.

(Seriously, that's gonna keep me smiling for a while. I even have some meetings today where I *know* I'll be tempted to try it out!)

At 7:39 AM, January 11, 2007, Blogger beth said...

Um...this sounds suspiciously like the story of my life. Have you been peeking again? :) I like #5 (done it, in fact). I also like the innocent, with just a tinge of sarcasm "Oh? Are you asking my opinion now?" This is best delivered after all the so-called experts have tried their solutions, failed miserably (as you knew the would) and are now moaning and wondering what went wrong.

I do agree with Eric on his second part though.

At 10:23 AM, January 11, 2007, Blogger Gwynne said...

Rach, yes! NZ would be a great antidote for my current mood. ;-)

Cach, good to know I'm in good company.

Brian, sometimes we're just forced to entertain ourselves. It's a sad state of human existence, but I hope it works for you. ;-)

Beth, yes, peeking again. There is something very childishly satisfying about letting them "fall down, go boom" as you say. ;-)

At 8:20 PM, January 12, 2007, Blogger Janie said...

J'ai comprende, Gwynne!


Post a Comment

Links to this post:

Create a Link

<< Home